A wise man once said "we spend our lives stretched on an iron rack of contingencies." As I sit back and ponder the message being conveyed I take the time to look at the people around me. Through my observation of those within my inner circle as well as those two steps out within the periphery of my life I am undoubtedly cognizant of the author's point of view.
The systematic teachings of society where we are taught that based on the laws of Physics for every action there is a reaction seems to confuse our basic instinct--or shall I say your intuition, if you will. So basically the way this works is if you go to school and you get good grades you'll grow to be the up-standing adult with a great job....right? Hmmm, if life were only that easy. Now by no means am I downplaying school--as a college graduate myself, I am highly supportive of education, and this is just a mere example one of the contingencies chained to our lives. Ironically, we treat our relationships in the same manner. We tend to make decisions that are contingent on the actions of our mate, FIRST, rather than just trusting our basic instinct. Just think, how many times have you said to yourself "depending on how this goes, this will determine whether we will still be together"...HaHa, I KNOW I HAVE!!! Or you say "well she did hold me down so I guess I kinda owe her."
These are only a couple of the contingencies we hold ourselves hostage to, when in fact subconsciously you've already decided in your head that you deserve better than what your mate is willing to give. It's wiser to trust your instinct and eliminate all the "if only" terms and conditions you've set into place. Rather than basing the fate of your relationship on contingencies focus more on the CONSISTENCY in your partner. Remember the only thing constant is the "essence of time" so if you have some to waste then by all means be my guest but just be mindful that time is something you can never get back. I often tell myself "the worst investment you can ever make is into people who don't appreciate the character of who you are." Stay true to yourself because in the end the option to be treated as "optional" contingent upon another is all yours!
-Lusty
About Me
- 100% LUSTY
- I am ME! Although wearing many names whether Lusty, Babygirl, Tee or Tree, I am never changing still the same woman that God has intended me to be. I have my highs and I’ve conquered my lows and although there will be more to come I am content enough in my faith to know I will move beyond woes. Sometimes I will make you laugh and at times I might even make you cry, but the one thing I can assure you is I will never tell you a lie! I am Me, and I love the person that I am, I won’t say that I am perfect but I just do the best that I can. So sit back and enjoy everything that you so choose read, and let me remind you one last time that I am who I am and I do ME!
