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THE X-FACTOR

I’m often challenged because my views on relationships don’t normally reflect that of the “average female.” However, totally comfortable in my own personal life, I would like to think that based on the life lessons of those around me as well as my personal experiences, I have no problem with expressing my opinion and the details of which supports such. That being stated, I’ll exhaust every attempt to make this “relatable” verse “debatable.” Make no exception as a female I speak on behalf of a feminist mindset yet this blog takes on a coed tone.
So I was engaged in a conversation months ago with some of my friends and I was asked “would u take a man back and/or stay with him if he cheated on you?” NO! You are an Ex for a reason, there will be no recycling…here is why…
Now of course we often hear the term “once a cheater always a cheater” which I don’t believe to be totally true. On the other hand, what I do believe to be true is a more modified version “once a cheater on YOU always a cheater on you.” Ladies and gents, let’s be serious with ourselves and stop trying to force these destructive relationships work. I’ll be frank with you and say it straight up; if he/she cheated on you once at some point in time he/she will do it again in some form or fashion. Think about it, when you decide to commit to someone it’s because you’ve made the conscious decision that this is the ONLY person that you want to be with despite the masses of equally if not more attractive people around you. Am I saying that you shouldn’t think others are attractive? Of course not. However, t he moment you made the decision to step out and act on your lust is when you felt the risk was worth negating everything you said to your partner once you entered that commitment. People cheat for a variety of reasons and sometimes you can have the best girl/guy in the world but if that bond can be broken by another then sorry to say honey but that person was never the one for you. That being stated the person who accepts the cheater back has basically made such behavior “acceptable” by allowing that person the free will of escaping the consequences of undesired behavior. It’s like the age old logics of physics, for every action there is a reaction. Do people deserve second chances? Sure, depending on the severity of the situation and all things are circumstantial. “The severity of punishment should be proportional to the degree of wrongdoing.”
I’ll leave you with a metaphor
Think of it like this…recycling is nothing but taking the SAME material and disguising it as something else…

-Lusty