It's the year 2010, and one would think that the age-old "parent trap" method of keeping a mate would have subsided by now. However, unfortunately it hasn't and I don't know what upsets me more--the women who try to trap a dude by getting pregnant or the dudes that allow themselves to become entrapped into the situation. It baffles me that rather than just taking that extra 2 seconds to "strap-up" you much rather trade 18 years of situational distress, all in the name of 15 minutes of ecstasy. So lets address this on two levels...
Ladies, ladies, ladies when will you silly little rabbits learn that tricks are for kids and just because you have a kid doesn't mean you automatically have a man by default. I have friends who often say things like "I'm his baby mother and I will always be where home is"--I agree totally, you will always be HOME, with your child while he's out doing him. Although having a baby does change your life it doesn't change the "person", like Jay Z says "No matter where you go, you are what you are player and you can try to change, but that's just the top layer." The idea of having a "family" and always having some type of connection to this person seemed thrilling at the time but you forgot about the fact that there was a reason why you had to trap him in the first place. Ummm, could it be that he didn't really want to be with you? You thought it would make him stay home? Or better yet maybe it was putting the stamp on that "meal ticket." Whatever it was your desperation kicked in and now you have a baby by a man that is still the same man he was before the baby came. Now more than ever his true colors are glaring and poor little you there's nothing you can do. You, who once was the "trapper" have now turned into the "trappee" and now things really heat up.
Now my fellas, smh still unable to figure out the "woman" you are ignorant to the fact that you've been baited. Being a man thinking with the wrong head you forgot all about the talks that you've had about how you would "never leave your seed" or you forgot about how she praised you on how well you take care of your son. Trust and believe me when I tell you she didn't and she used one of the most irresistable forms of temptation to lead you right where she wanted you. So now instead of just wearing the latex you get the "I'm late" text. Feeling like you have no other options you try to make a home-life with this person whom you were never really interested in from the start. You're forced to try and make it work for the sake of your child but indirectly end up making it worse. You see you can only compromise your happiness but for so long before your body will naturally seek to satisfy it's quest for that divine right. So then it begins, you're staying out late, you start cheating, you seek to find that same happiness you felt in previous relationships you let go when all of this started. You can't build a happy home on an unhappy life and your child will soon realize that although mommy and daddy are both here they're not in the same place.
-Lusty
